That never made sense to me, and still doesn't. Either use your words or leave the girl alone. Don't pull their hair or hit them and then run off with a blush. And the folks that normalize this, do they even get what they're saying and how stupid it sounds? I doubt any one of them could explain it, it's just some holdover b.s. explanation from another time.
Tell her to kick the little fuck where it'll hurt. Then, when she goes to the Principal's office, go with her and say, "I told her to kick the little fuck where it'll hurt because you did fuck all to stop him." Then spend the days when she's suspended going to museums and getting ice cream.
My kids grew up knowing itβs wrong to hurt anyone. But I enrolled them in classes to teach them how to hurt people in self defense. Thatβs different. My daughter got so good that she became a teaching assistant. Thatβs my girl!
I cannot abide anyone hurting my kids. If my kids donβt kill them, I will.
Yeah, I just hate how--even in this day and age--you still have mostly women saying "that just means he likes you" when a boy hits a girl or something. Why does that stupid thing persist? I know most of those women heard the same thing when they were little girls. And I doubt that was a satisfying or helpful answer for THEM back then. It reeks of some b.s. answer to give to girls AND boys (because some little boys didn't want girls running around the playground trying to kiss them or hold their hands) by adults who don't want to deal with telling someone to lay off their behavior so as not to hurt their little feelings for 5 minutes.
Good gravy, disappointment's a part of life. And learning boundaries and how to make them is crazy important (especially in our lawsuit happy society). We know this today, and yet still push the boundary-stomping, don't-bother-me-by-reporting -uncomfortable-behaviors tactics to avoid being momentarily uncomfortable as adults. And yet in 10 years these same adults will worry about their teenagers and insist that they can "come to me for anything and I'll help you." Uh, you didn't back then, so why the hell should the kids trust you now?
I had a stepmom who said that "that just means they like you" crap to me. I was in 8th grade, and I remember looking down at my arms and seeing bruises and going "oh yeah, I got about half a dozen guys head over heels for me." They weren't little "love taps". They were the result of months of getting tripped in the halls, my books knocked out of my hands, being shoved sideways into locker doors when the passed. I was despised as the quiet weird kid who was an easy target... And she wondered why I never bothered to speak up for myself again and just went through the motions til she and her brood moved out. What was the point?
Yeah, I just hate howβeven in this day and ageβyou still have mostly women saying βthat just means he likes youβ when a boy hits a girl or something. Why does that stupid thing persist? I agree that it's completely fucked, @Talia Peschka. I think it has to do with an attitude like, "It's always been this way," or some related bullshit. Yeah, we "always used to" burn witches too, but that never made it OK. This kind of patriarchal bullshit ("... it just means he likes you") is so burned into western culture (and many other cultures) that most people scarcely notice how insanely sexist it is.
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•Good gravy, disappointment's a part of life. And learning boundaries and how to make them is crazy important (especially in our lawsuit happy society). We know this today, and yet still push the boundary-stomping, don't-bother-me-by-reporting -uncomfortable-behaviors tactics to avoid being momentarily uncomfortable as adults. And yet in 10 years these same adults will worry about their teenagers and insist that they can "come to me for anything and I'll help you." Uh, you didn't back then, so why the hell should the kids trust you now?
I had a stepmom who said that "that just means they like you" crap to me. I was in 8th grade, and I remember looking down at my arms and seeing bruises and going "oh yeah, I got about half a dozen guys head over heels for me." They weren't little "love taps". They were the result of months of getting tripped in the halls, my books knocked out of my hands, being shoved sideways into locker doors when the passed. I was despised as the quiet weird kid who was an easy target... And she wondered why I never bothered to speak up for myself again and just went through the motions til she and her brood moved out. What was the point?
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