autism psa:
us autists tend to naturally cluster together socially, when given the chance. we're just more comfortable for each other to be around, as best I can tell. my online social circle is *very* autism spectrum, for example.
which is to say, if you're reading this, you're probably at least adjacent to a cluster of autistic (and trans, plural, depressed, ADHD…) folks.
that's a data point that YOU might be one or several of those things.
us autists tend to naturally cluster together socially, when given the chance. we're just more comfortable for each other to be around, as best I can tell. my online social circle is *very* autism spectrum, for example.
which is to say, if you're reading this, you're probably at least adjacent to a cluster of autistic (and trans, plural, depressed, ADHD…) folks.
that's a data point that YOU might be one or several of those things.
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Lioness
•* people expect you to know things you couldn't possibly know.
* you're crap at remembering people's names and faces.
* people think you're funny, but you suck at jokes.
* the more helpful and thoughtful you are, the more people get mad at you.
* people think you're mad when you aren't.
* "Look at me when I'm talking to you."
* people are basically random.
* you don't know what you look like.
* subtitles.
* the music is too damn loud.
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•* you're crap at remembering people's faces.
* "Look at me when I'm talking to you."
* people think you're mad when you aren't. (not being able to see facial expressions often means you forget to do them yourself)
* you don't know what you look like.
* the music is too damn loud (because not being able to see, you cannot lip-read, and you need your ears to get around).
Well, there have been several debates in the blind community about how it'd help a lot if people would treat us as if we're autistic, exactly because of things like this (and many others!) matching, even if for slightly different reasons. In the end, we are similarly unable to read neurotypicals, because we can't see the "obvious" signs.
So — first online, and now increasingly offline as well — my social circle is full of amazing autistic folks, as well. Perhaps you've got a point! 👁less_smile:
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•MarkusL
•Self-training to overcome discomfort and be more sociable — isn't that what everyone does? No? Oh.
Could some of these be summed up by the phrases "literal-minded" and "binary thinking" (if it's not A then it must be B)?
Could you explain what you mean by "subtitles", please? is that just hearing what people say and missing what they really mean?
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•Completely agree with you, obviously.