Do I know any #neurodivergent peeps who actually manage to use a notebook/planner consistently? Either digital or paper-based.
I cannot maintain one for the life of me even though I’ve tried every planner and app under the sun.
When I do use it, it does work. It helps me keep track of things and makes me feel less overwhelmed. I don’t feel like I’m spinning a bajillion plates at the same time.
But idk how to keep up with it or build that habit. So please share your secrets if you’ve managed to deal with this.
I have difficulty with that as well (I have a plain whiteboard and markers). What I think might help me is moving the whiteboard from its current location in the kitchen to my work space where I spend a most of the day, so that I can't miss it. Do note this is just a hypothesis and haven't gotten around to it tho (since like a month ago when I thought of it but... u know lol).
That could be another: Have a big personal whiteboard in a wall - that makes it less likely that you'll miss it. I know that if I'd try to keep a notebook it would very quickly be lost under a mountain of crap and I'd also as quickly completely forget about it.
I use the Tasks app and have for years... technically I keep a bullet journal too, but I'm not consistent with it at all... the organizational structure of Tasks just works so well for my brain... we are all different, but I hope if you feel like trying it, it ends up being useful for you too
Okay, now that I've thought fora minute, we use Kanboard, which also has a kandroid app between @silverwizard and I...
It is not nearly as intuitive and I don’t like it as much but it's FOSS and you have more control over the features, but the nicest feature (for me) is being able to auto populate the task again in x amount of time from either when you close the task or when it's due....
Not as easy or intuitive but if you're doing your own thing might be worth a shot?
My experience is that you want a very limited checklist apps with a checklist that you can easily make into text messages and check off. Whereas Kanboard is very heavy - but fairly easy for sharing, but requires a server.
There's a bunch of very lightweight things similar to Tasks in F-Droid but you don't have the open-source purity desire to test them. And you don't feel the need to sync to a laptop, since you use your laptop like once a month.
I have a hard time articulating what I like about tasks, and I found something that works and so it's stressful to search more, but absolutely you're right that I don’t have the open-source purity to go on a dive, which is something that I don’t really like about myself, but that's another topic
I guess I'll do my best to articulate in case it's useful to anyone else
Tasks -I like that it doesn't delete tasks immediately when they're crossed off and when you do delete an item on accident, it's easy to get it back -I like that you can text a list easily and simply to another person -I like that it's got sections, and sections within sections, and sections within that if you need them and everything is colour coded with a lot of colour options -I like that it shows you a list that shrinks nicely or shows up all the items that you've completed as crossed off, depending on the mood -If you can autopopulate, I haven't figured it out, that does suck, that's my favourite feature of kanboard
Kanboard -I like that you can autopopulate tasks -I like that you can create different columns based on the task list which you can have for varying levels of completeness or urgency -I like that it's opensource and it's easy enough to use -Once a task is complete it's closed and gone, so that's probably my least favourite thing, but not a dealbreaker either
There might be more, I'm not entirely sure. I hope that helps with decision making
@Becky I completely get the whole wanting to stick with what works even if it's not a perfect solution. When I find a system that is familiar, deviating from it is... difficult to say the least. When my routines get disrupted, things tend to go badly for me.
since #ADHD makes it hard to form habits in the first place, I’ve basically accepted I will never consistently keep any one planner/system forever. And it’s kind of liberating to know I can focus on what works for me *right now* instead of worrying about what would work indefinitely. I keep a paper journal but the format is total chaos.
this really resonated with me when I started getting into #ADHD specific productivity advice. Novelty matters so accepting the fact that I will mix it up has released some of the pressure to find and fix an “ultimate system”
Same here! I let myself drift slowly from system to system as long as I get what I want to done. I think of it like twiddling my thumbs; it releases some of my mental energy and restlessness and hopefully gets out of the way but is enough INCU (Interesting, Challenging, Novel, Urgent) to keep me using it.
I really like this advice! I struggle so much with what I *should* be doing vs what’s actually *working* for me right now. It’s just so bloody hard but I guess I just gotta try harder. 😅
I just read this thing that I really like: "the relapse rate for ADHD is 100%". I'm working hard on having self-compassion as well as not trying to be good at things I'm bad at. It's really hard after a lifetime or behavior and a neurodiverse brain, tho'. 🧠
Not try harder! Give yourself permission to stop trying so hard! Treat yourself like a scared and overwhelmed child, work out *why* it’s hard with gentle persistence and kindness, and find tricks to make it *easier*
That concept has changed a lot for me. I mean, old habits persist. But catching myself (gently) from “should”ing and “ugh my brain is so awful” has been sooo helpful.
oh wow! This is really good. I always think that one day I will find the right planner system to make me productive but i know in my heart that won’t happen. Accepting that I need to change every so often to keep things fresh / clear out the huge backlog of tasks seems like a really good thing … wonder if I will actually manage to accept this?
I haven't managed to apply it for that particular thing, but in my experience, the only way for me to be consistent about anything is to make it an automatic habit, so it happens without me thinking about it. I can now remember to take my license with me most of the time when I drive, at least.
I am certain this was supposed to be most helpful for ADHD and I wish I could give credit where it was due but I was supposed to have a launching pad so to speak, a consistent small place where I would store my wallet, keys, every small item, glasses, etc, that I would need to leave every day with, it might be a small box on an end table, or a small shelf by the door, somewhere you put everything when you get in the door, before doing anything else, and somewhere that you can pluck everything off of before leaving, so I don't forget anything. Maybe Hazel Thornton or Jessica McCabe?
It really does help when I follow it. I don't run around the house like a maniac looking for lost items and making a mess for me to fix when I get back
Unfortunately ... I started to stick more and more things in the box, until I was having to dig in the small box for things, so I now have a vertical launchpad with pushpins to hang keys, watch, wallet, mask, etc. 🤷: easier for me to just look at that spot for something that is missing than root around in a box I can't keep things out of hahaha
I use Google calendar with tasks. And everything goes on it with emojis and colours depending on the task. That way my memory can be used for something else 😬
So a whole planner? Nope. Cannot. But, I do use a calendar app that syncs with my server, and that syncs with my phone. The trick for me to put the appointment in the instant I know about it. Mt watch shows me my next appointment time, which is a great near constant reminder.
jec&
That could be another: Have a big personal whiteboard in a wall - that makes it less likely that you'll miss it. I know that if I'd try to keep a notebook it would very quickly be lost under a mountain of crap and I'd also as quickly completely forget about it.
2 people like this
KemoNine and Bill Taroli :neurodiversity: like this.
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Jonathan Lamothe
•Becky
•Jonathan Lamothe
•Becky
•Jonathan Lamothe
•Problem is, it's likely to remain yet another of my half-finished projects.
jec&
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Jonathan Lamothe
•Becky
•It is not nearly as intuitive and I don’t like it as much but it's FOSS and you have more control over the features, but the nicest feature (for me) is being able to auto populate the task again in x amount of time from either when you close the task or when it's due....
Not as easy or intuitive but if you're doing your own thing might be worth a shot?
Jonathan Lamothe likes this.
silverwizard
•There's a bunch of very lightweight things similar to Tasks in F-Droid but you don't have the open-source purity desire to test them. And you don't feel the need to sync to a laptop, since you use your laptop like once a month.
Jonathan Lamothe likes this.
Becky
•I guess I'll do my best to articulate in case it's useful to anyone else
Tasks
-I like that it doesn't delete tasks immediately when they're crossed off and when you do delete an item on accident, it's easy to get it back
-I like that you can text a list easily and simply to another person
-I like that it's got sections, and sections within sections, and sections within that if you need them and everything is colour coded with a lot of colour options
-I like that it shows you a list that shrinks nicely or shows up all the items that you've completed as crossed off, depending on the mood
-If you can autopopulate, I haven't figured it out, that does suck, that's my favourite feature of kanboard
Kanboard
-I like that you can autopopulate tasks
-I like that you can create different columns based on the task list which you can have for varying levels of completeness or urgency
-I like that it's opensource and it's easy enough to use
-Once a task is complete it's closed and gone, so that's probably my least favourite thing, but not a dealbreaker either
There might be more, I'm not entirely sure. I hope that helps with decision making
Jonathan Lamothe
•Becky likes this.
Benjamin راغب
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
Anna Koop
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
David Hayes 😸
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Shubheksha
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
David Hayes 😸
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Benjamin راغب
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Anna Koop
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
https://thelatestkate.tumblr.com/post/86710521129/my-therapist-taught-me-to-start-thinking-of-my/amp
#ADHD #selfCompassion
my therapist taught me to start thinking of my...
thelatestkate (Tumblr)ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Shubheksha
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Anna Koop
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Irongeek (he/him)
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
AutisticMumTo3 she/her
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
@actuallyautistic
Aaron
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Micah :infinity_rainbow:
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Micah :infinity_rainbow:
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Micah :infinity_rainbow:
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
james
•ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Booshtasticc
•ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.
Miakoda
•Content warning: Help wanted // neurodivergence // executive dysfunction // tips & tricks
But, I do use a calendar app that syncs with my server, and that syncs with my phone. The trick for me to put the appointment in the instant I know about it. Mt watch shows me my next appointment time, which is a great near constant reminder.
ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.